Anonymous said: Do you think there's a difference between someone who has a strong preference for a certain body type/trait and a fetishist? How on earth can we tell the difference in a practical dating scenario?

I think there’s a huge difference. #1 Fat fetishists call themselves fetishists. They ID that way (now I do think there are some people who fetishize fat folks who aren’t gonna label themselves accordingly, but I have a big issue with those who do use the label so I’m focusing on them).

If someone makes you feel like they’re objectifying you or that they’re overly focused on your size, that’s what determines if they’re being fetishistic. I think that fetishistic behavior is best recognized by those being fetishized.