Anonymous said: I love your blog, and just you in general, tbh. maybe we should also talk about the guys too? I know it's not common, but there are guys with eating problems and body issues. after all, feminism is about equality, right? love you! keep being positive.💕
While I do sometimes specifically talk about men on here and more frequently, talk about body positivity and self-love in totally non-gendered terms because I strongly believe people of all genders need body positivity, I wanna point out a few things.
There are other blogs which cater specifically to men. Here are just a few.
If you’re a man and you want more body positive blogs that cater to men, make one! As a man you have far more power and privilege than I do to create positive change for yourself. Use your power for good to create your own really awesome spaces instead of asking women to change women-centered spaces to cater to you.
Why is this primarily a women-centered space? Well for one thing I’m a woman. I write from my own perspective and experiences. And those experiences have involved a lot of misogyny causing my body negativity. So it’s a personal goal to address that and make the world better and safer for other women. And ultimately all people. But I do centralize women. Because misogyny doesn’t get talked about enough. Because in a world that favors and privileges men in all things, sometimes women need to be centralized.
(And I like to think, because I’ve been told this by folks of all genders, that general discussions of body positivity and self love, even when women are featured or the writers, DO positively impact people who aren’t women)
So while I think conversations about men and body positivity are totally important, I think they’re less important in women centered-spaces. I think they should be happening elsewhere, and that men should be leading them. Especially because so much of the negative stuff that harms men’s body images is actually created by other men.
So while this blog is for people of all genders, it centralizes women (and to the extent that I can be helpful as a cis person, non-binary folks too). And it’s gonna keep centralizing women. And I don’t that’s inequality.
But I again strongly encourage men who want more body positivity for men to make it. Use your privilege to carve out those spaces and help out your brothers.