WHO RUNS FUCK YEAH BODY POSITIVITY?
My name is Katie. I’m a 20 year old queer cisgender woman attending college in New York. You can learn more about me on my personal blog (where you can also direct questions about my sexual orientation, my education/aspirations, etc.).
I WANT TO FOLLOW THIS BLOG BUT I DON’T WANT TO SEE ASK BOX MESSAGES WHAT CAN I DO?
My ask box can be a pretty busy place. I totally understand if you want to keep your dash clean and not see all the messages. To make them disappear from your dashboard, just block the tag “fybp asks.”
I WANT TO FOLLOW THIS BLOG BUT SOME MESSAGES/POSTS CAN BE TRIGGERING FOR ME, WHAT CAN I DO?
I attempt to keep this blog as safe a space as possible (understanding there are times when I will fail at that) through the use of trigger warnings. I will tag posts with triggers when I feel they’re necessary (common tags are: anorexia, tw: anorexia, bulimia, tw: bulimia, eating disorders, tw: eating disorders, fatphobia, tw: fatphobia, body shaming, tw: body shaming, health, calories, etc.). If you block tags which are triggering for you, there’s a better chance you won’t see potentially harmful stuff on my blog.
I also put some things under a “read more” which could be triggering on sight. If there is an image I have not done this with, let me know, and I’ll likely go ahead and edit it so it’s not visible unless you click through.
I WANT TO FOLLOW THIS BLOG, BUT I ONLY WANT TO SEE THE POSITIVE STUFF, WHAT SHOULD I DO?
A lot of people come to this blog looking for a positive, empowering, healing place. While I feel engaging in conflict is some times an essential part of asserting my beliefs, I understand that the negativity involved in that is not something that is safe or productive for others. Therefore if you only want to see positive stuff on the blog, block the tag “negativity” which I’ll use for any posts I feel may apply (and any ones you ask me to tag).
WHY DIDN’T YOU RESPOND TO MY ASK BOX MESSAGE?
I usually try to answer all ask box messages, but some times it doesn’t happen. It might’ve been for a variety reasons:
-some times Tumblr is ineffective & I simply don’t get your message
-some times on a day when A LOT of messages are coming in, yours might get lost in the fray or I’ll forget to get to it
-when something that’s generating a ton of feed back happens, I will some times not post redundant messages that say the same thing
-I simply haven’t had time yet, but I’m getting to it
-I thought it might be too triggering for my other followers (in this case I will often post the reply in a ‘read more’ so be on the look out for those)
-occasionally, there will be a rude or intentionally antagonistic message, if you sent this kind of message, don’t be surprised when you don’t get a response
Unless you’ve sent one of the aforementioned mean messages, me not replying to you isn’t personal. I try really hard to get all the messages as fast as I can but some times it doesn’t happen for one reason or another. Send me a reminder or the question again and I’ll answer it as soon as possible.
HAVE YOU HAD AN EATING DISORDER?
Yes, I suffered from anorexia from ages 13 to 14. While I have recently struggled with some disordered eating behaviors, I consider myself to have been in recovery for six years.
WHAT IS THIN PRIVILEGE?
Thin privilege is a collection of societally reinforced benefits that come from being perceived as thin which are not given to individuals perceived as fat. These benefits can include paying less for health insurance, not being hired for a job by a fatphobic employer, and eating in public without receiving negative remarks from strangers. These are just a few examples. Possessing thin privilege does not mean that you are a bad person. Privilege does not make the person who possesses it “bad.” The system which allows one identity group to hold privilege, other groups do not possess is bad. Possessing thin privilege does not mean you are incapable of being insecure about or ashamed of your body. Body image is complex and everyone will have a different relationship with it regardless of size. Feeling fabulous 100% of the time is not part of thin privilege. You can possess thin privilege and be an ally to the fat acceptance community as long as you do not body shame fat individuals, respect their lived experiences, and acknowledge the privileges you possess.
I talk more about this issue here.
HOW CAN I DEAL WITH LOVED ONES BODY SHAMING ME?
WHY IS REVERSE THINSPIRATION WRONG?
I cover that in this post.
BUT BEING FAT IS UNHEALTHY!?!?!
You can be fat and healthy. You can be thin and unhealthy. You can not look at a person and diagnose anything about their health. If you don’t believe me, you should look into Health at Every Size. There is plenty of medical research that has been done- and not funded by the weight loss industry- which support the concept that you can be fat and healthy.
The thing is though, even IF being fat was the unhealthiest thing a person could be, it still would not be ok to judge fat individuals, ask fat strangers impertinent questions about their health, or use shame as a motivator (hint: it’s a poor one) to get healthy. Because these are all cruel, rude things to do. Furthermore, health does not define one’s worth (to say otherwise is to perpetuate an ableist understanding of health). It’s not ok to shame, bully, or bother people who engage in behaviors perceived as unhealthy.