Hey y’all! Just wanted to give you a heads up that I’ll be at Otakon in Baltimore this weekend. I got to meet some of you last year which was super cool! So if you’re there & you see me, say hi! I’ll be cosplaying Poison Ivy all weekend (I’ll be the one with an ivy crown)
also for the love of GOD please make skinny people STOP MAKING ‘GUIDES’ FOR HOW FAT PEOPLE ‘SHOULD’ DRESS SHUT THE FUCK UP NOBODY ASKED YOU NOBODY WANTS YOUR APPROVAL OR YOUR SHITTY ASS TASTES IN FASHION. WHEN YOU TALK, THIS IS WHAT I HEAR:
'here this giant shapeless $500 burlap bag is flattering, it conceals all that physical being i don't want to see because i can't abide seeing a fat person engaged in the act of existing!'
'use a waist cincher for that cute, curvy silhouette to redistribute your curvatures to socially acceptable places!'
'dress in darker colors to make yourself look thinner because the idea of a fat woman wearing bright colors and not muting her presence through earth-toned attire is abhorrent to me!'
Sometimes people belittle the body positive movement by saying it’s just about feeling pretty.
And it IS about feeling pretty, feeling pretty can be a huge accomplishment.
But it’s also about disconnecting prettiness from our worth, about unlearning the strong and toxic cultural message that fitting into a narrow definition of beauty determines our value as humans.
It’s about all the tears and the panic attacks and the scars and the brokenness that come with feeling unattractive and feeling like that attractiveness is the most important thing in the world.
Because before you can start to feel pretty when you have felt disgusting and horrible and unlovable for so so so long, you have to learn that you are deserving of respect and love from others AND yourself REGARDLESS of pretty. You have to learn to love the you that’s beneath the skin, the you that is your words and actions and thoughts, your heart and soul. Then, you can decide if you wanna feel pretty, and start to work on that.
And that kind of self-love, one that is more than skin deep, is body positivity.
And it opens up so many doors for you, doors to recovery from mental illness and eating disorders and self-harm, doors to peace of mind and joy and strength, doors to stuff you never thought you could do whether it’s public speaking or actually having fun in a bathing suit or going for the job you’ve always wanted.
“Whenever you’re going through a bad day just remember, your track record for getting through bad days, so far, is 100%; and that’s pretty damn good.”—My amazing friend (via pain-is-temporary-keep-fighting)