Hey y’all! I wanted to apologize for ask box messages not being answered for quite some time. I posted a couple months ago explaining that I was in a rough spot emotionally and just couldn’t handle ask box messages. I’m doing better now though so I’m going to try to answer them again. I really appreciate your patience with this. The ask box currently has over 1,000 messages so I probably won’t get through the old ones, but I will try to do my best to answer new messages as they come in.
(And as always check my FAQ first, you might find the answer to your question there).
It’s 1am so I’m sorry for the people who won’t see this. But if you want confidence and don’t know how to get it, a really good way is to be confident in other people. When you walk into Starbucks, think, “damn, that barista’s hair is da bomb!” Or when you go to school, think, “my teacher is rocking that skirt!” When you start seeing everyone as being beautiful, at some point you realize that you’re everyone too.
You are not some kind of a saint because you “still think women are beautiful” without makeup on. You do not get brownie points for not being disgusted by women in their natural state. Some women wear a little makeup, some women wear a lot, some women wear none at all and men’s opinions about it are less than worthless. Because we don’t fucking wear it for you.
Hello fellow queer women you’re all beautiful in your own special way and individually should be praised because of that. Its impossible for me to personally show you all the respect and admiration you deserve on a daily basis so just know that you are all Queens in your own right and that you’re all gorgeous no matter what anyone has to say about it.
“If you’re a woman and you don’t wear enough make-up, there’s about an 85% chance that the first person you see when you leave the house will ask if you’re tired or sick… Conversely, if some dude’s inbuilt conceal-o-meter scans your eyeliner as a millimetre thicker than the Department of Warpaint’s cat eye regulations, you’re likely to be charged with five counts of Offences Against Natural Beauty… Part of this phenomenon is that a lot of people, and almost all men, don’t understand how make-up works. Make-up was, and still is to a large extent, one of those private self-maintenance tasks ladies perform out of male view, because putting it on openly fucks with the illusion it’s supposed to create. Traditional make-up - and especially ‘no make-up make-up’ - is supposed to make your face look ‘naturally beautiful’… Sponging on the foundation where dudes can see messes with men’s suspension of disbelief and can even cause anger, confusion or disgust. You tricked me!, he thinks. I thought you were a natural beauty! Now I see [it was] an illusion… “If I know she wears make-up,” muses the dude, “maybe she burps and farts as well. That’s not hot at all, and women are supposed to be hot…” Wearing ‘too much’ make-up also renders the make-up itself visible, rather than contributing to the impression of a woman’s inbuilt, effortless fuckability. It’s often connected to unbecoming displays of overt sexuality: … ‘that heavy eye shadow makes you look like a whore’… This does open up the enticing possibility of using make-up in rebellious ways, though - playing with colour and glitter or doing a hot pink lip can make you look fantastic and repel men who expect more subtlety in make-up practice. Or you could take a more direct approach, like writing IT’S NOT FOR YOU across your cheek in green shimmer eyeliner. You go girl.”
— Eleanor Robertson, "All Made Up" for FRANKIE magazine. (via ollymurmaid)
“It is just a body. The more you can be neutral about a body, the better. Bodies change, and many times they change from things out of your control. Bodies do not, and never will, have anything to do with your value.”—
“Just as petals range in size from buttercup to orchid …the length of the inner labia, or labia minora, can be between 3/4 inch and 2 1/3 inch (a much broader range than most of us realize), according to a classic study published in the early 1900s in the journal American Gynecology, and every gynecologist we’ve ever talked to says there’s no good medical, hygienic or aesthetic reason to be self-conscious of yours. Really.”—HuffPo (via genitalsanxiety)
making fun of body hair is mean and rude and cruel and you shouldn’t do it. people don’t voluntarily choose to have body hair, and if they choose to keep it its their fucking decision and it shouldn’t be ridiculed just because this culture’s weirdly obsessed with hairlessness there’s nothing wrong with hair it’s just hair stop making people feel bad for having it that’s awful