p0kemina:

oxprettyhatemachinexo:

tempestpaige:

loveyourmakeup:

Well, depends on how much you put on to start with!
Heavy makeup is so unnecessary every day. Keep it simple and go all out when you are going out or for a special occasion.
#makeup #doha #cosmetics #beauty

fuck ur shit makeup is my art
i can’t make art on paper
i can’t write poetry
i can’t make music
i can’t dance
but i CAN paint. and draw. and outline. and blend. and smudge. and highlight. and shade.
it just so happens that my face is my canvas.

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The harmful drug here is society’s unrealistic expectations of women. The harmful drug here is media’s influence in making women feel like they’re not good enough. Being able to visually express yourself is not harmful. I love my makeup. I love to create and blend and explore colour palettes and I love to put it on my face the same reason you love to wear your favourite shirt. You feel good wearing that shirt and it also gives others a feel for your personality. Expressing yourself is not harmful; belittling women for their right to do so is.
Of course makeup is used as a tool to enhance beauty and can therefore have negative effects on one’s self esteem, warping their perception of beauty and in effect their own self worth. However instead of tacking that issue, some women feel the need to lecture others (almost always condescendingly) on what makeup is, what it does, when to wear it, how and why. Not wearing makeup doesn’t make you any more morally superior than the next person.

p0kemina:

oxprettyhatemachinexo:

tempestpaige:

loveyourmakeup:

Well, depends on how much you put on to start with!

Heavy makeup is so unnecessary every day. Keep it simple and go all out when you are going out or for a special occasion.

#makeup #doha #cosmetics #beauty

fuck ur shit makeup is my art

i can’t make art on paper

i can’t write poetry

i can’t make music

i can’t dance

but i CAN paint. and draw. and outline. and blend. and smudge. and highlight. and shade.

it just so happens that my face is my canvas.

^

The harmful drug here is society’s unrealistic expectations of women. The harmful drug here is media’s influence in making women feel like they’re not good enough. Being able to visually express yourself is not harmful. I love my makeup. I love to create and blend and explore colour palettes and I love to put it on my face the same reason you love to wear your favourite shirt. You feel good wearing that shirt and it also gives others a feel for your personality. Expressing yourself is not harmful; belittling women for their right to do so is.

Of course makeup is used as a tool to enhance beauty and can therefore have negative effects on one’s self esteem, warping their perception of beauty and in effect their own self worth. However instead of tacking that issue, some women feel the need to lecture others (almost always condescendingly) on what makeup is, what it does, when to wear it, how and why. Not wearing makeup doesn’t make you any more morally superior than the next person.

(via redefiningbodyimage)

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Wednesday, 22nd May

angryasiangirlsunited:

Lucy Liu at the 2012 NYWIFT Muse Awards (x)

(Proper) Representation matters. 

(Source: judygrimes, via pinkhairedlesbianadventures)

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Wednesday, 22nd May

Anonymous asked: I know ED recovery is about more than body restoration, and I know that even body restoration is unhelpful when it's not combined with a psychological recovery. I've got a friend whose mum wants to body slam her into inpatient, but since my friend doesn't want to recover, it's not going to do any good. What do I do?

There’s really not much you can do if your friend is a minor. I will also say, though I know you clearly have good intentions, inpatient might be what your friend needs. I don’t know their physical health, but body restoration might be necessary in order for their body to keep functioning. But more importantly, that kind of care typically includes psychological treatment. And honestly, while someone does have to want to recover in order for it to be successful, that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be helped before they want to recovery. Some times that can be pretty necessary to getting to a place where someone is ready to recover. For example, when I was suicidal I started going into therapy before I was in a place where I wanted to live. If I hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t be here b/c I never would’ve changed my mind about my life being important. Your friend might need professionals telling them why recovery is so important right now in order to believe it herself.

Anonymous asked: Are asexual people oppressed for being asexual?

I’m not really the person to answer this as I don’t fall on the ace spectrum/am less educated than I’d like to be, and thus really ought not to act as a voice for the ace community.

However, asexual individuals do face unique issues and clear prejudice. I mean, having your sexuality be classified as a mental illness and treated like a character flaw, or simply nonexistant? Not being represented in almost any sex ed programs? Having next to no mirrors of yourself in dominant culture? What does that sound like?

Anyway, you can learn more about asexual issues at The Asexual Agenda, which is a blog run by AVEN members. If you’re not on the ace spectrum yourself, I do ask that you be respectful in how you interact with that blog as it’s written for folks who ID as ace.

(As always I ask that questions unrelated to body positivity be directed to my personal blog)

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Wednesday, 22nd May

Anonymous asked: I wasn't sure if I sent this or not, but I am a cisgirl and my very best friend struggles with their "feminine" body, hating it especially because it doesn't appear as boyish as they wish it did. Being cis, my body struggles don't include this insecurity, so I'm not sure how I can help them. I know they must come to the conclusion of body peace on their own, but is there something I can do to help them? Is there something I shouldn't do that would help them? Thank you.

Well, as I’m cis as well I can’t off the perspective as someone who deals with dysphoria. But my partner does, so I’m speaking from my experience with being there for him.

-Affirm your friend on a regular basis, not just when they express that they’re feeling insecure.

-Validate their dysphoric feelings. They don’t go away overnight, and some times it can be helpful to just hear, “It’s ok that you don’t feel ok right now.”

-Listen, some times just being their quiet, but actively listening, can be really helpful.

-Reminding them that you see them as the gender they ID as in the body they currently have can some times be helpful. But acknowledge you know that might not change how they feel as well.

-Ask your friend what kind of support they appreciate  Everyone is different and everyone responds differently to different kinds of love.

-As far as things not to do, just try not to be impatient or to expect too much. As I said, dysphoria doesn’t go away right away and it can be very hard to cope with, so just try your best to be patient, understanding, and empathic.

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Wednesday, 22nd May

Anonymous asked: I just want some advice because I find you inspirational. I just got cheated on after being with this guy for 4 years, he cheated on me with a much skinnier women. My confidence is pretty knocked, anyway to boost it?

-Remember that cheating always says more about the cheater than the person being cheated on.

-Remember (I know I said this recently, but it should always be repeated) that one woman’s beauty doesn’t take away from yours.

-You deserve a nice night out with your pals. Dress up (whatever that means to you), have fun, flirt if you feel like it.

-Wake up every day and tell yourself you’re gorgeous. Each day you’ll likely find yourself believing it more and more.

-Give yourself permission to put the break-up on the shelf for a while. Dwell on it too much and you’ll get lost in it (and the insecurity that’s come along with it). Look for an activity that makes you feel positive and capable, whether it’s a hobby or a project at work. Throw yourself into it.

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Wednesday, 22nd May

When someone tells me my mental illness could be cured by losing weight

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Tuesday, 21st May
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Tuesday, 21st May
venusvegas:

I am extremely tempted to make this my facebook cover. Is that a good idea  or the best idea? (or the worst idea?)

If you do, please source me.

venusvegas:

I am extremely tempted to make this my facebook cover. Is that a good idea  or the best idea? (or the worst idea?)

If you do, please source me.

(Source: fuckyeahbodypositivity)

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Monday, 20th May
wangclub:

*white eurocentric beauty standards i guess? There’s quite a few Black, South Asian, East Asian, Arab and all mixes of people round these hoods who would call themselves European.. And there are plenty of white people in the US so if they meant white why doesn’t it say fuck white beauty standards? is it a reference to kind of the Swedish archetype of tall, blonde, blue eyes?Edit: hmmm the source seems to be a white New Yorker - maybe she didn’t create it, but if i white American did create this then it says something a bit worrying. If it was a white person then it seems ‘european’ is being used as a euphamism so that racism doesn’t need to be faced up to. And if your American please think a little bit about what Europe is actually like.

Hey, so yes, I did create this image. No I’m not European. Yes, I’m white and I totally respect/expect there will and should be skepticism around me writing about racism. But I wanna stand by the wording of this image, particularly because I didn’t make up the term “Eurocentric” nor am I the first to use it in this sentence (I just made it into an image, people of color have been saying this for a lot longer than me). I completely intended to call out racism in this image. I completely mean white Eurocentric beauty standards. I am more than willing to face up to racism and the privilege I experience as a white woman, including in dominant beauty culture. I didn’t include the word “white” because of what Eurocentric means, particularly in academia (and I’m drawing specifically from Black academics here, who have written and continue to write elegantly on the damaging impact of Eurocentrism) which isn’t simply European (because obviously there are tons of people of color in Europe, and there are tons of white people in the U.S, Canada, etc.. [but it could also be acknowledged white people over here pretty much came from Europe]). The word Eurocentric very specifically relates to a process of western, white colonization of people of color’s nations/cultures and the way in which white colonizing involved white folks violently forcing their views on others, and that these white standards are the ones people continue to be held to, greatly harming those who don’t match up to those standards. The word is pretty much never ever separate from whiteness in its use, because again it doesn’t mean European, it means a centralizing of white European ideals via oppression, violence, and colonization (and discussions of deconstructing Eurocentrism typically come from an anti-colonialist viewpoint). So when I wrote “Eurocentric,” that was me writing “white.”  Because that’s how “Eurocentric beauty standards” has been used, again, by people of color before me. That phrase is used to mean “expecting people to look white” and it is used frequently in discussions of the racism and colorism that exists in dominant beauty culture. I genuinely had no desire to be euphemistic or to give white folks (including myself) a pass. We are the ones who uphold and enforce Eurocentric (read: racist) beauty standards. We are the ones who benefit.
I hope you don’t mind the long explanation.

wangclub:

*white eurocentric beauty standards i guess? There’s quite a few Black, South Asian, East Asian, Arab and all mixes of people round these hoods who would call themselves European..

And there are plenty of white people in the US so if they meant white why doesn’t it say fuck white beauty standards?

is it a reference to kind of the Swedish archetype of tall, blonde, blue eyes?

Edit: hmmm the source seems to be a white New Yorker - maybe she didn’t create it, but if i white American did create this then it says something a bit worrying. If it was a white person then it seems ‘european’ is being used as a euphamism so that racism doesn’t need to be faced up to. And if your American please think a little bit about what Europe is actually like.

Hey, so yes, I did create this image. No I’m not European. Yes, I’m white and I totally respect/expect there will and should be skepticism around me writing about racism. But I wanna stand by the wording of this image, particularly because I didn’t make up the term “Eurocentric” nor am I the first to use it in this sentence (I just made it into an image, people of color have been saying this for a lot longer than me). I completely intended to call out racism in this image. I completely mean white Eurocentric beauty standards. I am more than willing to face up to racism and the privilege I experience as a white woman, including in dominant beauty culture. I didn’t include the word “white” because of what Eurocentric means, particularly in academia (and I’m drawing specifically from Black academics here, who have written and continue to write elegantly on the damaging impact of Eurocentrism) which isn’t simply European (because obviously there are tons of people of color in Europe, and there are tons of white people in the U.S, Canada, etc.. [but it could also be acknowledged white people over here pretty much came from Europe]). The word Eurocentric very specifically relates to a process of western, white colonization of people of color’s nations/cultures and the way in which white colonizing involved white folks violently forcing their views on others, and that these white standards are the ones people continue to be held to, greatly harming those who don’t match up to those standards. The word is pretty much never ever separate from whiteness in its use, because again it doesn’t mean European, it means a centralizing of white European ideals via oppression, violence, and colonization (and discussions of deconstructing Eurocentrism typically come from an anti-colonialist viewpoint). So when I wrote “Eurocentric,” that was me writing “white.”  Because that’s how “Eurocentric beauty standards” has been used, again, by people of color before me. That phrase is used to mean “expecting people to look white” and it is used frequently in discussions of the racism and colorism that exists in dominant beauty culture. I genuinely had no desire to be euphemistic or to give white folks (including myself) a pass. We are the ones who uphold and enforce Eurocentric (read: racist) beauty standards. We are the ones who benefit.

I hope you don’t mind the long explanation.

(Source: fuckyeahbodypositivity)

Before I go though, how fabulous do I look in this dress?

Now take note. I look this great even with that acne on my face (and my big red puffy nose- I’m sick). Acne doesn’t stop you from looking great. It doesn’t make you any less you. It’s just a part of life.

If you’re struggling with feeling beautiful because of your acne, I dare you to wear something eye catching today, something that makes you feel like a million bucks. (It’s ok if it’s hard or you can’t do it, but try it. Even if you don’t get out of your bedroom.)

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Sunday, 19th May

I promise I’ll get to the rest of your asks. But it’s my first day back home for the summer & I’m gonna spend it with my family (and pizza and Iron Man 3) so it’s gonna be a bit. Hang in there. All of y’all of strong, beautiful, and capable.

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Sunday, 19th May

“Untitled” by Nick Knight [x]

(Source: naomihitme, via glitterfieldstudy)

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Sunday, 19th May
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Sunday, 19th May